God recommends self-forgetfulness and discipleship rather than self-celebration and self-improvement.
Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any [man] will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.
For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it (Matthew 16:24–25).
If we cultivate a Christ-like mind, we ultimately gain the “confidence [that waxes] strong in the presence of God” (D&C 121:45). That is very different from self-confidence. It is a serene peace that God is in charge and that He knows how to accomplish His perfect purposes.
Father’s plan for growth is different from the human plan for growth. Rather than enlarge our management, rally our genius, and exercise our strength ..... we focus our faith, submit our wills, and beseech heaven for divine power. That is the relentless message of the Book of Mormon.